You have to be willing to let people go.
As you change and grow as a human being, there will no longer be space for certain people in your life. It’s not their fault and it’s not yours. You are not the same person that you once were, and that’s a good thing. You have grown and in turn, your aura has too. You may feel that some people from your past life have gotten stuck, and this is a normal feeling to have. But you can only be concerned about you. They are not your responsibility anymore because the universe has put you on different paths.
Have you ever noticed that once you feel the energy shift with someone, maybe you saw them one day and you could just feel that there was no longer compatibility. You could feel an unspoken distance. Then, after that, you never see them again. This isn’t accidental, this is the universe at work. Your energies are no longer compatible. You are not the same person you were the day this person came into your life. You have changed, and that’s okay. “If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to."- Lao Tzu
Instead of spending so much of your energy in your new life trying to grasp onto things or people from your old one, embrace the present-day. Embrace the person you have grown to become. Once you fully accept the person you are right now - the more people who align with your new energy will drift into your life. People who are in tune with you will walk alongside you and eventually find their way into your life.
In my personal life, I have felt this shift in a seismic way over the last 24 months. Friends who I once thought would be in my life forever have quickly fell out of my life. At first, it can be easy to drown in self-pitty, and blame yourself. You question what you must’ve done wrong to push these people away. But from my own experience, I can tell you, you did absolutely nothing wrong. I realized during my own journey that a lot of the friends I had made, I had made because of a social activity that I no longer participate in: Drinking alcohol/Going out. Many of the people I kept company with, I did while I wasn’t sober. To some, this is their entire identity. So, as they continued to indulge in the pleasures of that world, there was no place for me in their life. Almost as if by some magic, as soon as I stopped giving way to living a life I didn’t remember, as soon as I stopped drinking, as soon as I stopped partying: I never saw these people again. That's the work of the universe, that's the work of my new life.
If you have felt similar things happening to you once you decided to better yourself: You are just like me, you are omitting a new energy now. Embrace it. Don’t hold onto who you once were, or people from a life you are no longer living. I know that this transition can feel lonely at times, but you must trust that if the old toxic you could build relationships, the new enlightened version can too. Join a club today, join a local social media group today, go to your local coffee shop, or park and say hi to a stranger. The universe has put you on a path - it is your job to walk it, the rest will take care of itself.
If no one else tells you today, I am proud of you, and I believe in you. Keep Going - Keep Moving!